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Options When a Spouse Dies with a Reverse Mortgage

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Cliff Auerswald, President of All Reverse Mortgage
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Under the old reverse mortgage rules, non-borrowing spouses of reverse mortgage borrowers did not have the same rights borrowers did.


In fact, in some cases where both spouses were living in the house but only one was named on the home title, those non-borrowing spouses were left without many options after the borrower spouse died. These cases have been covered by mainstream media and often made headlines due to the unfortunate situation they presented.


But all that has changed. The federal government has implemented new rules to protect non-borrowing spouses of reverse mortgage borrowers. These changes, made by the Department of Housing and Urban Development, apply both to new non-borrowing spouses, and also to loans that were closed before the rule changes.



Here’s what you need to know if your spouse has passed 

Reverse Mortgage Options When Spouse Dies


For existing non-borrowing spouses:

If you took out a reverse mortgage loan before August 4, 2014, and you were married at the time to someone not named on the reverse mortgage, that spouse may be able to remain in the home even after the borrower dies, depending on circumstances.

A few criteria must be met in order for this to happen:


  • The marriage must have taken place before the loan was originated
  • The couple must remain married until the borrower’s death
  • The surviving spouse must maintain their home as his or her principal residence
  • Surviving non-borrowing spouses must establish legal ownership or right to remain in the property in certain cases.

There are some special circumstances for civil unions as well as same-sex marriages that were not permitted under state law at the time the loan was closed.


In addition, the surviving spouse must adhere to the loan terms and requirements. These include ongoing payment of property tax and insurance, property maintenance to Federal Housing Administration Standard and keeping a current homeowners insurance policy.


However, if the borrowing spouse was receiving tenure or term payments, or was accessing the loan proceeds as a line of credit, the non-borrowing spouse does not have the ability to receive these proceeds.


For new non-borrowing spouses: As of August 4, 2014, all new reverse mortgage borrowers with non-borrowing spouses were offered new protections under a rule from HUD.


For new case numbers assigned after that date (if you officially started your loan application by that date), non-borrowing spouses meeting certain criteria are able to defer repayment of the loan when the named borrower passes away.



Again, certain requirements apply.

  • The non-borrowing spouse must be married to the borrower at the time the loan closes
  • The marital status must be disclosed via certified letter
  • Certification must be resubmitted annually once the named borrower passes away.

But there’s another change, as well. In new loans where there’s a non-borrowing spouse, that spouse’s age is considered in determination of how much the couple can qualify to borrow. If a non-borrowing spouse is much younger than the borrower, the impact could be substantial.



Refinancing to add protection

refinance your reverse mortgage

The greatest level of protection is offered to non-borrowing spouses on the new loans being completed today. If you are a borrower with a non-borrowing spouse, you may be able to qualify to refinance your reverse mortgage into a new reverse mortgage in order to include the non-borrowing spouse under the loan agreement.

If the non-borrowing spouse is 62 or older, you may also be able to add that spouse as a borrower, giving him or her the same rights that the borrower enjoys, including access to the loan proceeds even if the first borrower passes away.



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22 Comments on this Article
  1.   Tommy C.
    December 27th, 2025
    My friend's wife died without a will. He wants to do a reverse Mortgage. Can he do this? His wife is listed on the deed, but there is no document of her estate transferring it to him. They do have grown children. Also, can he remove her name from the deed?
    Reply to Tommy
    • Michael Branson Michael Branson
      December 27th, 2025
      Hi Tommy,
      That depends on how they held title to the property and which state the home is located in.
      If the property is not in a state with very strict heirship laws, and they held title as joint tenants, he will likely have no problem. If the deed shows joint tenancy with right of survivorship, the process is usually straightforward.
      If, however, they held title as tenants in common, where each spouse owned 50%, or if the property is in a state where heirship rights are strongly protected, it can be more complicated. Without a will or trust, it's hard to say for sure how the title would need to be cleared.
      Before spending money on an appraisal, he should speak with a lender and have them check with a title company to confirm whether he has clear title and can move forward with a reverse mortgage.
      Reply to Michael
  2.   Tasha
    November 3rd, 2024
    Hello,
    My mom married a man who had already taken out a reverse mortgage before they were married (prior to 2014). They have been married for 12 or 13 years now, and he recently passed away. She's 77, and I'm wondering if there are any options that might allow her to stay in the home past the 90 days or even take over the mortgage. She lives on a very limited income.
    Thanks for any advice.
    Reply to Tasha
    • Michael Branson Michael Branson
      November 5th, 2024
      Hello Tasha,
      Unfortunately, the best time to address this would have been before he passed. They might have been able to refinance the loan jointly, using his income as well. Now, her only option for a reverse mortgage is if she can qualify on her own.
      Did she inherit the home solely, or are there other heirs who also have a claim? If she now fully owns the home, she could look into obtaining her own reverse mortgage, provided she and the property meet the qualifications. Alternatively, she could consider selling the home and using any remaining equity to relocate or support herself elsewhere.
      Reply to Michael
      •   Reda C.
        April 6th, 2025
        Mr. Branson, I took out a reverse mortgage a few years after my husband passed away. I didn't understand all the details at the time.
        I thought I would only owe what I borrowed at the beginning. I was stressed and unsure of what I was doing.
        Now, the balance has grown from $80,000 to $140,000.
        Can you help me get out from under this?
        Reply to Reda
        • Michael Branson Michael Branson
          April 7th, 2025
          Hello Reda,
          A reverse mortgage has no prepayment penalty, and you can pay off the loan at any time - either in part or in full - without penalty. This means you're free to make voluntary payments, even though none are required, and pay down or pay off the loan entirely.
          You can choose to:
          Refinance the loan with one that doesn't accrue interest, or
          Pay the full balance with funds you have available or by selling the home.
          The loan balance increases over time because interest accrues and is added to the principal if you're not making payments. However, you're not obligated to let it grow unchecked. You can choose to make payments, and as long as you cover at least the interest and mortgage insurance that accrued that month (as shown on your statement), your balance will not increase - unless you're receiving draws from the loan. If you pay more than the accrued amount and take no additional funds, your loan balance will go down.
          I can't speak directly to your misunderstanding about the balance growth early on, but I can say that lenders are required to clearly disclose projected balance growth in multiple documents, including the amortization schedule sent to your counseling agency. I'm very sorry to hear that you weren't fully aware of how the loan worked.
          You do have options - I just hope they are still feasible for you at this point.
          Reply to Michael
  3.   Rachel M.
    August 24th, 2023
    Hello ARLO,
    My mom is currently living in the house that my dad took out a reverse mortgage on back in 2011. He is the named borrower on it, but not my mom. He passed away two years ago and she continues to live there paying taxes and insurance. Do we need to contact the reverse mortgage company or the lender?Is she still allowed to stay in her home until she decides to move? When she decides to move and sell the house, what steps does she have to take in order to sell it and does the money made on the house go back to the lender? What if the property now appraises for more than when it did over a decade ago? Can that difference be pocketed by her? She is completely lost with the whole thing, and so are we as her children. Dad died suddenly and we never sat down with him to go over all the legality and details behind their reverse mortgage. The paperwork is so thick that I'm having a hard time finding the right person to call to the reverse mortgage and/or lender. Please help.
    Reply to Rachel
    • Michael Branson Michael Branson
      August 27th, 2023
      Hello Rachel,
      I want to give you the correct answer because it differs based on the circumstances. If mom was married to your dad and lived in the house when the loan was closed and had been living in the home the entire time, she could continue living in the home as an "eligible non-borrowing spouse." As long as she continues to live in the property and pays all the taxes, insurance, and any other property charges (i.e., HOA dues, if any) in a timely manner, she is okay regarding the loan. She will not have access to any undrawn funds remaining in the line of credit, but the lender will not call the loan due and payable. She needs to have the title to the home in her name now, and she should let the lender know all that transpires so they do not have any issues with the title transfer. There is a possibility that your dad already transferred the title to himself and your mom after the loan closed. Then she doesn't need to do anything with the title now.
      When she moves, she will do the same thing she would do with any other move. She will list the home for sale, sell it for the best price she can get, and all the money over and above the amount owed on the current lien(s) belongs to her. Once you have a buyer and the sale enters escrow, the title company will contact the lender and request a Beneficiary's Demand for payment in full on the loan. The loan will be paid from the sale proceeds. The lender only receives the funds necessary to repay the loan, and your mom keeps all proceeds above and beyond the amount needed to pay off the existing debt (plus any costs), just like any other loan. It doesn't matter what the appraisal is or the sale price. There is a loan that must be paid off, but Mom owns the house, and any equity in the home is hers to keep.
      If you don't contact the lender to inform them of your dad's passing before that time, make sure you send the lender a copy of your dad's death certificate and the information to show that your mom owns the home when you list the home for sale. Inform them that mom is the current owner and, as the eligible non-borrowing spouse, will take care of the repayment and all other aspects of the reverse mortgage so that the lender does not delay the procedure to send out the payoff statement (the Demand). If they have no authorization otherwise, they could delay things by waiting to verify that your mom has the authorization to request it. It is not difficult; don't wait until the last minute to send the paperwork to the servicer so your closing is not delayed, and it should go smoothly.
      Reply to Michael
  4.   KHRISTOPHER R.
    November 2nd, 2021
    MY MOTHER IS THE SURVIVING SPOUSE AND WAS MARRIED TO MY DAD AT THE TIME OF THE REVERSE WAS WENT INTO AFFECT BUT ONLY HIS NAME WAS LISTED AS THE BURROWER. BUT HE HAS BEEN DECEASED AS OF FEBRUARY 2021 AND YOU WENT INTO A NURSING HOME ABOUT 3 MONTHS AGO. AND THE FULTON COUNTY PROBATE COURT APPOINTED ME. ADULT GUARDIANSHIP AND CONSERVATORSHIP. IS THERE ANY POSSIBLE WAY THAT I COULD KEEP THE HOUSE?
    Reply to KHRISTOPHER
    • Michael Branson Michael Branson
      November 2nd, 2021
      Hello Khristopher,
      The reverse mortgage is now due and payable since the borrower and the eligible spouse are no longer living in the property as their primary residence but with regard to the ownership of the home, that is up to your parents and their wishes/directives.
      If they have not established a trust or will that name you as the heir, then you may need to petition the court and that process would be best discussed with an attorney who specializes in heirship issues. The lender does not determine who gets the house. They are only a loan/lienholder who has a loan that is now due and will be looking to see how that loan will be paid.
      If you wish to keep the home, you would need to either use funds available to you or refinance the loan with a new loan in your name but to close a new loan in your name, you would need title to the property and there is where the attorney will most likely need to assist you. I don't know but it stands to reason that it will require a court action.
      Reply to Michael
  5.   MONIQUE S.
    February 28th, 2021
    Hi ARLO,
    My mother and father have a reverse mortgage and my father just recently passed on valentine's. My mom is on the mortgage. What do I have to do to help my mother?? Will we lose the home? Is anything due the company will not talk to me and my mom is not handling my father's death well so I'm having to handle EVERYTHING. What can I do what do I have to do? I am lost and confused don't want to lose our family home. HELP!
    Reply to MONIQUE
    • Michael Branson Michael Branson
      March 2nd, 2021
      Hello Monique,
      If mom is also on the loan, you do not need to do anything. The loan remains valid if at least one original borrower is still living in the property as their primary residence.
      What I do suggest you do though is have mom sign a letter that authorizes you to speak with the lender and them with you on all matter relating to the loan. There may be things that come up and if mom needs help, you should be able to step in and help her and the authorization will allow you to speak to the lender on mom's behalf.
      They are just making sure they do not violate financial privacy laws and so mom's authorization is needed because at this point, they do not know you or if mom wants them to discuss her private information with you.
      I also suggest that you talk to mom as soon as things settle down a bit because it sounds like you may be living in the home as well. I do not know if there are other heirs or if you have any siblings but if something happens to mom, that reverse mortgage becomes due and payable. You should be ready for this eventuality.
      It might not happen today or tomorrow, but sooner or later, the time will come that the loan will become due and payable. If mom has no will or trust, it may be wise for you to talk about what will happen when mom passes and what her wishes are (especially if you are living in the home).
      It is much easier to make plans and for mom to sign legal docs while she is still here than later after something happens. I know now may not be a good time, but I urge everyone to consider the future and make plans.
      Reply to Michael
  6.   Toni T.
    November 17th, 2020
    Hi ARLO,
    We did a reverse mortgage eight years ago. My husband was older, but I was too young to qualify. We quick deed the house to his name since I could not qualify being too young. If my husband passed before me can I stay in the house. Brokers are telling us to go to the courthouse and put my name back on the house. We were been married for 47 yrs. will this protect me if he passes and I can stay in the house. Thank you.
    Reply to Toni
    • Michael Branson Michael Branson
      November 17th, 2020
      Hello Toni,
      You absolutely should put your name back into both yours and your husband's names and could have done that any time after the loan closed but that will not protect you when he passes.
      I would also advise you and your husband to send a letter of authorization to the lender from your husband that authorizes them to speak with you and you to them on all matters relating to the loan at any time.
      This will allow you to talk to the lender should your husband become incapacitated or pass and you need to work on the loan with them.
      Otherwise, they cannot give any information to a third party without the borrower's consent or until you have a court order and that takes time.
      The loan will become due and payable at that time.
      I would suggest that you also consider refinancing that loan with a new loan in your name as well so that you would be protected if something were to happen to your husband.
      Putting the title back into both your names and getting the authorization will protect you in case you need to sell the home or speak with the lender but it will now allow you to continue to live in the home under the terms of the existing reverse mortgage in his name alone.
      If you can refinance it with a new loan in both your names, either one of you would be able to stay in the home if something happened to the other (which also includes needing to move to a permanent home/hospital for care).
      Reply to Michael
  7.   Elizabeth S.
    November 25th, 2019
    My husband has a Reverse Mortgage on our home. His name is only name on title. One year ago, he added to his Living Trust for his wife (that would be me) to have total ownership of this property at time of his Death. We both signed these Amendments on his Living Trust and Notary was done. He passed away 09/16/19. Now what do I do?
    Reply to Elizabeth
    • Michael Branson Michael Branson
      November 25th, 2019
      Hello Elizabeth,
      The title will pass to you, but the loan still becomes due and payable. You need to investigate what you want to do about either refinancing the loan with a new loan in your name or selling the property to pay the loan off and relocating.
      If you are over 62 yourself, you might be able to qualify for a reverse mortgage of your own if that is your preference but the clock is now ticking and you need to make the decision as to what avenue you wish to take fairly quickly because the lender will be looking for you to inform them as to how you intend to repay the loan at this time.
      If you would like to remain in the home, first review your most recent reverse mortgage statement to see the outstanding balance on the loan and then check with a lender to determine the loans available unless you plan to pay the loan off with other funds available to you.
      If you plan to sell the property and move, review that same statement and discuss the balance with a local real estate professional as it relates to the most probable sale price of the home.
      He she can tell you what you might expect to receive from a sale of the property in its current condition and then you will know what equity you have in the property for the purchase or relocation to your next home.
      Whichever choice you ultimately make, you could then list the home or begin your loan application and when the lender contacts you, show them that you already have the home listed or application for refinance pending and they will work with you if you need a little more time to complete the sale.
      Reply to Michael
  8.   Steven
    April 23rd, 2019
    On Feb/Mar, 2013, my wife and I applied for and received a reverse mtg. At that time, I was 70; my NBS spouse was 60. I am the borrower. We were told home had to be removed from our Trust, and that after closing escrow it could be returned to the Trust where it currently is held. So, I'm on the loan and my NBS holds Title in her Trust. In the event I pre-decease her, how can I arrange for her remaining in our home without fear of foreclosure?
    Reply to Steven
    • Michael Branson Michael Branson
      April 23rd, 2019
      Hi Steven,
      When you are no longer living in the home as your primary residence, that loan will become due and payable. Having the title changed will make it easier for her to do whatever she needs to do in that she will not have to worry about the title not being in her name and you not being there to sign, but it will not stop the loan from being due and payable.
      You have a few options currently to keep that from happening. Firstly, you could refinance the loan with a new loan in both your names. With her on a reverse mortgage as well, she would not have to worry about what would happen to the home if you should pass before her.
      Secondly, look at the outstanding balance of the existing reverse mortgage. If that loan becomes due and payable, you would need to have a vehicle for her to be able to pay the balance in full or at least sufficiently so that the remaining balance could be easily managed if she had to finance it at that time. An insurance policy is probably not a viable option at this point, but many have used this as a way to be sure the reverse mortgage balance could be paid when needed in the past.
      Thirdly, if you do not think the other options mentioned are viable, what about a relocation? No one likes to think about moving if it isn't something you were already contemplating, but if you had been thinking of a downsize, a move to be closer to relatives or into a home that better suits your lifestyle at this time, now might be a great time to really get busy with those plans.
      You can use a reverse mortgage to purchase your next home as well and can be sure you are both on the next loan. Many borrowers find that a smaller, a one-story home or one that is ADA compliant, a home in a 55 and older community or whatever other reason, help make this time a perfect opportunity to get a home you may have been considering but have been putting off but also secure both your futures and not have to worry about a loan coming due at the worst possible time.
      Reply to Michael
  9.   Cecelia
    August 9th, 2017
    My husband and I dated 19 years, then lived together 2 years before getting married in 2004. We've been married 14 years and live in Virginia. He took out a reverse mortgage while we were living together (he was 70, I was 60). My name was not put on the reverse mortgage because we were not married and because of my age. What will happen to the house if he dies before me? Would I lose the house and be made to move? He doesn't have a will.
    Reply to Cecelia
    • Michael Branson Michael Branson
      August 9th, 2017
      Hi Cecilia,
      Since you are not on the current mortgage and not on the title to the property, things could be much more difficult than they need to be if he passed at this time with the current state of things. We are not attorneys and cannot give you legal advice, but I will give you a few thoughts to run past your attorney because it is very good that you are addressing this now.
      Firstly, the two of you can easily add you to the title of the property now before anything happens. Your attorney should be able to do this quickly, inexpensively and without creating a taxable event. This is the first step and what it would do is to make sure that your name is also on title to the property so that if anything happens to your husband, you don't have to start worrying about getting the property into your name at that time. It's much easier to do while you are both here and able to sign the paperwork to make the change and your reverse mortgage allows him to change the title into both your names at any time.
      Changing the title into both your names will not solve all your issues though. You still have a reverse mortgage that would become due and payable if your husband passes. You could wait until then and seek to pay off the loan with a new reverse mortgage in just your name at that time, you could sell the home and pay off the loan that way or you could seek to refinance the loan at this time in both your names. My suggestion would be to look into the reverse mortgage refinance now and I will tell you why.
      Firstly, if you wait until your husband passes, there will be a time limit for you to act to pay off the old loan. I don't think waiting until you are dealing with the grief of the loss of a loved one and then adding the stress of having to obtain financing at that time is a very good proposition. I believe much cooler heads prevail when you are not doing things because you are making forced decisions. Also, if your husband has any income, you can use that now for qualification purposes and that may not be available once he passes. Some incomes continue even when an individual passes as long as the spouse survives, but most does not. If his income is from social security, a pension or other source that would no longer be available after he passes, you would not have that income available to help you qualify for the loan. Finally, if you are able to refinance the loan now, you would not have to be concerned over this matter again in the future, you would both be on the title and on the new loan so no matter who passed first, the remaining spouse could still live in the home for the rest of his or her life without fear of having the lender call the loan due and payable because of the death of the other spouse.
      The decision is obviously one that you and your husband need to make. It probably would benefit you both to seek legal counsel and have the numbers run for a refinance to see if it's feasible in your case with the property value changes since you did your last loan. Whatever you decide, I think you will find it much easier to accomplish while you are both here and able to sign documents than to wait until you have to get courts involved after someone has passed.
      Reply to Michael
      •   Shawntrice
        December 6th, 2022
        Hi Arlo,
        My parents have a reverse mortgage on their home. My dad is the borrow and my mom is not due to her age at the time she was too young to be added. They never went back to add my mom once she reached the required age. My dad passed away a week ago and before he passed he did a quit claim deed to add my mom and siblings to the house. After his death can a non-borrowing spouse request be processed by the lender to allow her to remain in the home or was this request supposed to be made prior to his death?
        Reply to Shawntrice
        • Michael Branson Michael Branson
          December 15th, 2022
          Hello Shawntrice,
          Your mom should be listed as an eligible non-borrowing spouse if they were married at the time, and she has been occupying the home continuously ever since. This would allow her to remain in the home under the same terms as your dad and if she pays the taxes and insurance in a timely manner, she can remain in the home with that loan still in place. They will not "add" her to the loan though so that means that if there was any money left on the line of credit available to your dad, she will not have access to it since she is not a borrower on the loan. If she wants additional money from the loan, she will need to refinance the reverse mortgage with a new reverse mortgage in her name.
          Reply to Michael

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